Happy Valentine’s Day

Today is not just any Thursday it is Valentine’s Day and according to regulation I have to love you all just a little bit more today.  In fulfillment of this holiday’s protocols I’m going to express my love with grand and impractical gestures!  Let’s begin the love fest!

I LOVE YOU – friends and readers I want to share those three little words with you! Today is the day that I tell you I love you! I’m also going to give you a key to my apartment and your own drawer in my nightstand!  It was time for me to take our relationship to the next level! So there I took the plunge and did it!  I LOVE YOU!

Gift Give Away – Why not give you a special treat I say! So the first person to comment on this blog will win a gift card for $25 to the Cheesecake Factory. Don’t’ believe me…just watch! $25 is as grand as I plan to get people! But I figure why not try something out. If it works maybe I will do more.  First comment wins (if nobody comments I still get to eat)!

Romance – so I have professed my love, gifted you, and now it’s time to set the mood (Bow Chicka Wow Wow).  What better way than with music? So for your listening pleasure here is a little something to get you in the mood!

Anita Baker - You Bring Me Joy- http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LONzdmFLJkM

Al Green – Simply Beautiful http://youtu.be/yOxFl4dna3o

Rick James & Teena Marie - Fire & Desire http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CPikYsi6_zU

After 7 - Ready Or Not http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fohpiig8N4U

Teddy Pendergrass – Turn off the Lights http://youtu.be/DSrEdpW3PoM

Isley Brothers - Between The Sheets http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=glhdcJ7K3XM

Atlantic Starr - Always http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LtslLDlmsIU

Dialogue-   A day of romance wouldn’t be complete without discussion; I’m a woman so let’s talk about what we feel.  For many of us (even those in relationships) Valentine’s Day is just another useless holiday. I don’t get the day off work; I am subjected to buying cards for people I don’t “really love” and I’m forced to witness people in every shade of pink known to man.  What is the point?  Driving up the costs of flowers and encouraging companies to put hearts on every product they make, it’s ludicrous. Valentine’s Day used to be a church celebration (the Feast of Saint Valentine) now it has evolved into one mass-produced hallmark greeting card! We aren’t even going to talk about how its black history month …where is the love for Black people huh? We have to share our month with Valentine’s Day (boo society)!   Hallmark I want a Happy Black History Month card, ASAP!!!

This is the kind of holiday that makes me think anybody can start a holiday!  In fact I’m going to start a holiday, Random Day! We are going to celebrate Random day on August 1 of every year! It is a day to participate in random thoughts, actions, and happenings. I’ll draft a proposal on this and submit it for your review in blogs to come!  

My ultimate point is you don’t need a holiday to show your love for a person, just start a blog and you can tell them all the time!!!  Or here is a thought just tell them.  The man of steel tells me all the time and that’s one of the reasons I love him. Just acknowledge the loves in your life and do a little random something for them whenever you feel like it (not because the calendar told you so)! Now go make some babies people!

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The Heart of the Matter (Love)

Now that I have had a good night’s sleep I’m back to having random thoughts. I had so much on my mind this morning most of it related to the Wizard of Oz. Don’t ask why people, it never makes sense! But I’m in a romantic and whimsical mood this morning and I was thinking about what makes people extraordinary.  What makes them loveable?

I have been listening to a great deal of India Arie and Musiq Soulchild today and Neo-Soul has a way of making you hate love and want to be in it at the same damn time. And the artists of the movement paint a very simplistic (but relatable) view of the significant other.  Opposite of the white knights and princess images we are bombarded with in childhood fiction and romantic comedies.  The overly extraordinary lover! But isn’t all LOVE extraordinary? That’s the point, love makes the impossible possible, it transforms the peasant farmer into the King; the bar maid can become a beautiful princess.  Love is the filter that often makes the ordinary extraordinary.  

I think about my past loves and there is a lot about them that could be defined as ordinary but I saw deeper. I peeled back layers and got to see a side of them that many people never saw. That’s what made them special to me, the things I saw through filtered glasses.  I know that filtering also glosses over the bad shit but let’s dwell on the positive you Debbie Downers!

I retweeted an Uber Fact the other day that stated: Scientists suggest that the average person will fall in love seven times before they get married.

I don’t take stock in twitter and I know everything I read isn’t true even if I get it from Wikipedia. But it made me think as many things do! I thought 7 times is a lot of lovin to get to the ultimate love. But is that ultimate love so finite. Isn’t it just finding that extraordinary person (to you) that your love for allows you to transform feelings of selfishness and freedom into selflessness and permanency.  That happens more than once for some or just the one time for others! My opinion is that it is pretty simple! Its life that is complicated not love… Loving is the easy part. Staying and working through the hard times is the complication.   

With that in mind, every now and again you come across a person that is extraordinary before the love. Those are the people that fascinate me. Some people are stars that shine brighter than others; people that resonate with you in such a way that makes you want to love them or at least be around them.  Some people can have an effect on you that leaves a lasting scar much like being impaled with a fishing spear would. Those rare souls that live on this earth to remind us what the stars are like. What makes them extraordinary is their spirit!

The problem with the “good” extraordinary folks is a lot of people love them. You might even say they are easy to fall in love with but history implies they may often be difficult to love.  I think these magnetic people just have to work harder at finding love. I mean how many other extraordinary people are out there to procreate with?!  We regular folks are looking for other regular folks that have elements of extraordinary to shed light on our ordinary being. For some of us that means superhero powers including the ability to read minds. Others might search for silly things like acceptance and understanding. Blah I want an endoskeleton fused with adamantium…Team Wolverine!   Whatever you are looking for or have been lucky enough to find, I hope the love shines light on the extraordinary.

Love is magical indeed and despite all I have been through I look forward to experiencing it again.  Now that is off my chest, I will return to my regularly sarcastic and abrasive self!